What's the problem ?

Free Choice vs. Habitual Reactions

The basic problem that we are all facing is that we all have buttons that can be pressed. Theses are automatic, habitual, pre-programmed reaction patterns. We are not living in the moment but ar essentially living in the past, reacting according to our past experiences of emotional pain and hurt. This can be due to physical or emotional abuse, disappointment, abandonment, any sort of emotional pain, the list is endless and we all carry that baggage around with us.

The next problem is that we have not been taught to get in contact with our deeper selves, to trust ourselves and to give ourselves time to discover what our authentic response is to people and situations. We get rushed into making decisions and told how we ought to respond and to react, what is expected of us and we go along with that to please, or we rebel to get a reaction, but these reactions are all from the past or in response to outer pressures rather than being genuine in the moment responses to the unique situation that is unfolding before us.

We need to learn to slow down, to create space, to trust our Body Wisdom to find the appropriate way of being with that person or that new situation. Then from that place of knowing we can articulate our truth, express what we want, find solutions that come from a new place within, a place of embodied thinking.

 

Now lets look at some of the FAQs....

Can WBF help with Insomnia ?......
Yes, of course, insomnia is due to an over-arousal of the central nervous system, and the mind getting caught in a loop. I have been able to help many clients to get a full nights sleep, and the best is to have a WBF session just before going to bed, it works like magic..... read more....

Can WBF help with Stress and Anxiety ?......
By having the safety of the body container it is now possible to stay with these uncomfortable feelings in conscious awareness and then from this position of being the detached observer you can create space for your inner Body Wisdom to work, to release the tension and to bring you back to a place of balance and a calm perspective.....read more....

Can WBF help with Trauma ?....
After many years of practice I can now confidently say that I have been able to integrate WBF with EMDR and now have all the tools to deal with trauma & PTSD from early life experiences, or traumatic experiences later in life........read more....

Can WBF help with Depression ?....
Freud defined depression as aggression turned inward on oneself, so WBF gives us the technique to find out where the energy is blocked and why. Then it can be released into a forward moving life purpose.......read more....

Can WBF help with Back Pain ?....
Sometimes the symptoms appear in the mind, sometimes in the body, but they are always part of a loop. So there is always a psychological reason/reaction to back pain.......read more....

By having the safety of the body container it is now possible to stay with these uncomfortable feelings in conscious awareness and then from this position of being the detached observer you can create space for your inner Body Wisdom to work, to release the tension and to bring you back to a place of balance and calm perspective again. A new understanding emerges that is also a vision of your forward-moving Life Direction.

The science behind Pattern Matching

Pattern matching is the process by which the brain habitually organises experience and makes sense of it. It happens in new-born infants who wiil look for face-like shapes to communicate with - rather than any one precisely defined face.

It is also part of the brains alarm system, based in an organ in the limbic system called the amygdala, which scans the environmment for potential threats, to see if they might be life threatening. Deeply traumatic events can set off a fight or flight or freezing reaction in the amygdala, rather than being passed onto the hippocampus where are more recent experiences are stored, and onto the neo-cortex where experiences can be translated into narrative memory.

Thus the amygdala of a person exposed to trauma has been imprinted with the patter of all the information surrounding the event. Whenever there is a match or even a partial match, the amygdala will fire off an alarm reaction and the fight or flight reaction is activated.

Because this all happens at an unconscious level we experience great confusion, alarm or emotional pain. As Daniel Goleman has said in his book Emotional Intelligence - this emotional arousal hijacks the thinking part of the brain.